I appreciate the reminder to slow down, work at my pace. (This is delayed, as I'm just finding you). But I definitely feel the pressure of Notes and I don't like it! And I feel the totally self-imposed pressure on myself to be way more here than anyone expects. I'm the one who declared I need to write weekly, but no one else probably cares if I did way less. I feel pressure on a Friday today to do all the workaday things, but no one's really looking over my shoulder at my pretty autonomous job. So it's time to just do what feels best for me - which may very well be just continue to publish weekly, but only as long as that brings me JOY and produces GOOD writing. So far so good. Thanks for the support!
💯 feeling this right now. I have a day off today and lots to get down, but zero desire to do them, rather, I have a desire to rest and go slow. So I am. It's hard with the little voice that tells me I'm not being productive (because I'd planned to do things), but I'm learning to quiet that out.
It is very important to recognize and voice the problems of women who have experienced trauma, burnout, mental and physical deterioration. I'm glad your articles touch on these topics.☀️
What a wonderful post. I feel connected to the ideas you share and similarly strive for a simpler healthier and more peaceful lifestyle. I have a way to go yet though - letting go of social media is soooo difficult- so I’ve subscribed to join your community and receive more beautiful gentle words and advice.
Love this! I had an accident 6 months ago which turned my world upside down and forced me to slow down for a bit. It's making me stop and think whether I really want to rev up again 🤔 I want to get something going on Substack and have been feeling a bit of FOMO looking at everyone's beautifully curated spaces and words - your words THERE IS NO RUSH have put the brakes on for a bit. 🌺
The Notes thing is spinning my brain and not really in a good way. Like you say, it’s a user issue and this user is me- I’m hoping I can find better balance. This episode of The One You Feed really helped me process what I was going through. But I’m still in it and trying to get to the other side. I’m trying to embrace ma - the Japanese concept of stillness and sit in the empty space - I’m hoping that in doing so I will feel less rushed.
Thank you for giving a name to how I feel. I have the gray hair and scars to prove my membership among the weathered women. I am more than 7 years into retirement and I am still struggling with feeling rushed.
I’ve been “refusing to rush” for some time now. It’s not always easy but I make not rushing a priority. And yes, please share more about peri/menopause. It’s something I’ve been doing a lot of reading on and trying to figure out. Fun times!
Aaaaah, those 'vicious overlords' meeting 'weathered women'!
So much of this post resonates with me, Luisa - you've said it all! It's only relatively recently that I feel I've accepted that whatever I do, however I feel, whatever's going on: well, it's okay, I can do it, it's fine, I don't need to conform to other people's - or even my own, actually - expectations.
I'm a Notes-free zone and staying that way. ⛔️ Social media makes me ill.
As always beautifully written, I was thinking of you over the weekend after you sent your message on Voxer about notes, and it helped me to become more clear with my thoughts about how I'm shaping the community. All this 'extra' in the end, always stems from the 'not enoughness', do the Substack creators feel that what they created was not enough as it was, or do they have a deeper purpose behind notes. Perhaps they are hoping to reduce the various apps, (this our open mind tabs) by putting it all in one, or perhaps it stems from comparison. Who knows?! Again it's all about what works for us and keeping within our own boundaries and what we have the capacity for. To note or not to note, the next thing to be honest with ourselves about.
"If you held a mirror between her public persona and her inner heart, the two would appear as complete opposites." THIS! Oh, how she longs to break free of all the external BS that she keeps herself imprisoned with. At the same time, trusting in the baby steps that are taken to align the two. Thank you for sharing! ❤️
I refuse to feel rushed
I appreciate the reminder to slow down, work at my pace. (This is delayed, as I'm just finding you). But I definitely feel the pressure of Notes and I don't like it! And I feel the totally self-imposed pressure on myself to be way more here than anyone expects. I'm the one who declared I need to write weekly, but no one else probably cares if I did way less. I feel pressure on a Friday today to do all the workaday things, but no one's really looking over my shoulder at my pretty autonomous job. So it's time to just do what feels best for me - which may very well be just continue to publish weekly, but only as long as that brings me JOY and produces GOOD writing. So far so good. Thanks for the support!
💯 feeling this right now. I have a day off today and lots to get down, but zero desire to do them, rather, I have a desire to rest and go slow. So I am. It's hard with the little voice that tells me I'm not being productive (because I'd planned to do things), but I'm learning to quiet that out.
It is very important to recognize and voice the problems of women who have experienced trauma, burnout, mental and physical deterioration. I'm glad your articles touch on these topics.☀️
What a wonderful post. I feel connected to the ideas you share and similarly strive for a simpler healthier and more peaceful lifestyle. I have a way to go yet though - letting go of social media is soooo difficult- so I’ve subscribed to join your community and receive more beautiful gentle words and advice.
Love this! I had an accident 6 months ago which turned my world upside down and forced me to slow down for a bit. It's making me stop and think whether I really want to rev up again 🤔 I want to get something going on Substack and have been feeling a bit of FOMO looking at everyone's beautifully curated spaces and words - your words THERE IS NO RUSH have put the brakes on for a bit. 🌺
walking, it's enough!
Oh Luisa, I admire your zen. My post this week was about my lack of zen and feeling rushed so I definitely have more to aspire to https://pocketfulofprose.substack.com/p/parenting-sometimes-we-do-a-bang
The Notes thing is spinning my brain and not really in a good way. Like you say, it’s a user issue and this user is me- I’m hoping I can find better balance. This episode of The One You Feed really helped me process what I was going through. But I’m still in it and trying to get to the other side. I’m trying to embrace ma - the Japanese concept of stillness and sit in the empty space - I’m hoping that in doing so I will feel less rushed.
NOTES-- I had the same feeling! And . . All sm accounts deleted: bravo!
I agree - restacks are the way to go! :)
I love how you described your 'many years of much rest' in the future. So many things I resonate with here.
Thank you for giving a name to how I feel. I have the gray hair and scars to prove my membership among the weathered women. I am more than 7 years into retirement and I am still struggling with feeling rushed.
I’ve been “refusing to rush” for some time now. It’s not always easy but I make not rushing a priority. And yes, please share more about peri/menopause. It’s something I’ve been doing a lot of reading on and trying to figure out. Fun times!
Thank you for this much needed reminder (in regards to using Notes and other things!)
Aaaaah, those 'vicious overlords' meeting 'weathered women'!
So much of this post resonates with me, Luisa - you've said it all! It's only relatively recently that I feel I've accepted that whatever I do, however I feel, whatever's going on: well, it's okay, I can do it, it's fine, I don't need to conform to other people's - or even my own, actually - expectations.
I'm a Notes-free zone and staying that way. ⛔️ Social media makes me ill.
As always beautifully written, I was thinking of you over the weekend after you sent your message on Voxer about notes, and it helped me to become more clear with my thoughts about how I'm shaping the community. All this 'extra' in the end, always stems from the 'not enoughness', do the Substack creators feel that what they created was not enough as it was, or do they have a deeper purpose behind notes. Perhaps they are hoping to reduce the various apps, (this our open mind tabs) by putting it all in one, or perhaps it stems from comparison. Who knows?! Again it's all about what works for us and keeping within our own boundaries and what we have the capacity for. To note or not to note, the next thing to be honest with ourselves about.
"If you held a mirror between her public persona and her inner heart, the two would appear as complete opposites." THIS! Oh, how she longs to break free of all the external BS that she keeps herself imprisoned with. At the same time, trusting in the baby steps that are taken to align the two. Thank you for sharing! ❤️
Thank you for a great piece. Very good reminders for me in here.